I deleted my social media accounts

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Deleting mainstream social media accounts provokes sharply mixed reactions: some see it as a vital step to escape addiction, algorithmic manipulation, and toxic engagement, while others argue it severs useful weak ties, professional visibility, and access to community groups or events. Many advocate a middle path—keeping accounts but limiting use, heavily filtering feeds, or treating platforms as write‑only broadcast channels—while others emphasize owning your own online space (blogs, RSS, federated services) instead of “renting” attention from ad-driven giants. A recurring concern is that corporate platforms optimize for outrage and engagement rather than well-being, yet alternatives like Mastodon or Bluesky face their own network and sustainability challenges.

Account Deletion vs Dormancy

  • Many argue against deleting accounts: freed handles can be hijacked for impersonation or scams, especially on platforms that recycle usernames (Twitter/X discussed as ambiguous, with ex‑employee saying reuse was immediate at one point).
  • Some recommend “hibernating” or minimally maintaining accounts, or leaving a final post stating you’re gone, to reduce confusion and impersonation risk.
  • Others say social handles aren’t strong identity anyway: bad actors can impersonate you with similar names regardless.
  • One legal angle: deleting accounts may loosen your ties to platform Terms of Service (arbitration/venue clauses) if you later want to sue over harms that occur after deletion.

Social Connection Tradeoffs

  • Strong theme: quitting major platforms often means missing life updates, events, or even deaths, especially when acquaintances only broadcast on social.
  • Some see this as acceptable or even positive: it filters out weak ties and encourages deeper one‑to‑one contact via calls, messaging, or in‑person meetups.
  • Others emphasize cultural contexts where maintaining broad, loose networks (extended family, diaspora communities) is important; for them, leaving Facebook/Instagram is “not an option.”
  • Debate over whether seeing updates in feeds truly maintains relationships or just creates an illusion of connection.

Addiction, Attention & Mental Health

  • Many report significant well‑being gains from quitting or sharply limiting social media: less anxiety, more focus, more meaningful use of time.
  • Others note that compulsive distraction simply migrates to other sites (HN, Reddit, YouTube); underlying habits must be addressed.
  • Techniques mentioned: separate OS/browser profiles for work vs leisure, site‑specific browsers, blocking extensions, removing phone apps, learning to tolerate boredom.

Utility of Social Media

  • Clear upsides acknowledged: professional visibility, recruiting, podcast invites, product marketing, local community groups, event discovery, Facebook Marketplace.
  • Some use platforms in “write‑only” or highly filtered ways (e.g., friends‑only feeds, aggressive hide/unfollow, browser plugins) to keep benefits while cutting algorithmic slop.

Moderation, Misinformation & Regulation

  • Sharp disagreement over fact‑checkers vs “community notes,” and over whether reducing moderation is good (less “censorship”) or bad (more scams, hate, and misinfo).
  • Distinction drawn between “free speech” and “free reach”: several want limits on algorithmic amplification rather than on speaking itself.
  • Meta’s loosening of hate‑speech rules and alignment with specific political actors is cited by some as a reason to quit; others see EU‑style regulation and fact‑checking as overreach.

Alternatives and “Owning Your Space”

  • Many nostalgia‑points: personal blogs, RSS, email, forums, IRC, Mastodon, Bluesky, Nostr; recurring advice to “own your domain” and not build solely on corporate platforms.
  • Others counter that blogs/RSS are too fragmented for casual users, and that large aggregators emerged because they solve real coordination problems.

Is Hacker News Social Media?

  • Mixed views: some say yes by definition (user‑generated content, comments, voting); others say it’s closer to a forum/RSS feed due to lack of friends/followers, ads, and engagement‑maximizing algorithms.
  • Even HN is acknowledged as potentially addictive, though generally seen as less toxic than mainstream feeds.