Sending emails to my three-year-old
Overall response to the “email your child” idea
- Many commenters find the concept touching and recommend it, having done similar things for years.
- People describe these messages as “time capsules” that capture small milestones and parental emotions that are otherwise forgotten.
- Some note that, in practice, sending frequency often drops after the first few years.
- A recurring concern: the child may later be indifferent, or even upset about having their early life documented and stored by large tech companies.
Email as the medium vs alternatives
- Pro‑email points:
- Everyone knows how to use it; easy for grandparents and relatives.
- The “letter” form encourages salutations, sign‑offs, and reflection.
- Built‑in timestamps and per‑message separation feel natural.
- Critiques:
- Email is awkward as long‑term storage and can dump a huge inbox on an 18‑year‑old.
- Suggestions include plain-text or markdown journals, append‑only docs, local SQLite or wikis, static blogs, or Obsidian-style notebooks.
- Several argue paper letters, notebooks, and printed photo albums are more personal and durable, especially when handwritten.
Reliance on Google and third‑party services
- Strong skepticism about using Gmail/Google for something meant to last decades:
- Risk of account deletion for underage users, inactivity, ad blocking, policy changes, or pricing hikes.
- Reports of entire child accounts being closed and irretrievable; also of large paid-storage datasets being deleted with no recovery path.
- Distrust of Google Takeout formats and of long‑term product continuity.
- A minority view this as a light, “nice if it survives” project rather than something to engineer perfectly.
Backups, self‑hosting, and alternative providers
- Common advice: never rely on a single provider.
- Use IMAP/mbsync/Thunderbird, custom scripts exporting .eml files, or local NAS and hard drives; keep multiple offline copies.
- Some migrate or start on providers like Fastmail or iCloud, often with custom domains so services can be changed later.
- Others self‑host mail on a VPS or keep everything in git repositories or structured local folders.
Privacy, consent, and family infrastructure
- Several worry about exposing a child’s life to surveillance/advertising ecosystems and prefer fully local archives that can be destroyed if the child wishes.
- Custom family domains raise questions about succession and trust in whoever becomes domain admin.
- Related ideas: closed family networks or small chat groups for sharing photos, and video messages or “drip‑released” recordings as an alternative legacy format.